Hi! I'm Jensen Argyle. I am a college senior studying English with an emphasis in creative writing. I am 21 years old and I am single. That's right, I'm not married. So why in the world am I writing a marriage blog then? Good question. Well, I am taking a class on marriage and hopefully that will help me to understand a little bit more about marriage. I am not saying that I am suddenly going to be the marriage guru, but hopefully there will be some interesting and insightful things I can learn and share with you.
So let's start with some things I am learning and began learning before I started this class. First I need to share something quite personal about myself. I may not be married, but I am in love. I also really hope he doesn't find this blog. Anyways, in the past few months I have learned quite a few things that will hopefully carry over into my married life. The most important thing I have learned is that love is not always easy. In the past, when I was in love, I was completely blind in adoration. I did not see the other person's faults and to me this is person was perfection personified. This time is a little different. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love and adore this man I am talking about. He is everything to me and I hope that he is the one I get to spend forever with. But he is not perfect, and I am very aware of his flaws this time around. There are days when I still love him, but I absolutely do not like him. He is driving me nuts and I can't take it anymore. There are some days when I am wondering why I bother putting so much effort into our relationship. He is not showing me the love I feel I deserve. And then I pray about it. I pray about him, pouring my heart out to my Heavenly Father and expressing everything that I am feeling. In the moments after I pray, something wonderful begins to happen to me. The spirit touches my heart. It soothes me and heals all of the parts that are hurting. And it reminds me how much I love this man. He is someone I have committed to, someone who I want to spend forever with. In the past months that this has been going on, I have been feeling a change in me and the way I see relationships.
What I am learning in this experience is that marriage is going to be very, very hard. There is no such thing as prince charming. The man I marry will be flawed, just like I myself have flaws. And because he will be flawed, there are going to be days when he makes me angry, unintentionally hurts me, or drives me insane. I am learning that on those days where nothing in my relationship is going right, I can turn to Heavenly Father and He can help see me through. He can heal me and give me the stamina I need. Most importantly, He can remind me of how much I love the man I have committed to and why it is so important to continue trying. I am so grateful for these lessons that I get to learn now in better preparation for marriage. I know that as long as I turn to my Heavenly Father and try to include Him in my personal relationships, He will help me succeed. And I know that by drawing closer towards my Heavenly Father, I also draw closer to the person in that relationship.
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